Painting by Pino Daeni

She knows who rules here
as her wrist is pressed without care.
She bows sheepishly:
tender obedience
sweet slavery.

The doors and the windows are closed.
Can anybody hear her screams behind the red curtains?
Her blood draws invisible patterns on the white wall.
(They could have had it all)

She surrenders again:
a punch,
some slaps,
He has a strange way of showing love.
(she can't remember who said that)

The king orders.
The king blames.
They don't burn in the same flames.
How many names can love have?

She is so ashamed of being weak.
She doesn't know how to count her blessings
(Did he say whore?)

Her body can't hide the truth:
a broken arm,
some bruises,
a recent scar.
(Why is happiness so far?)

She drags her chains,
ironing his shirt perfectly,
cooking his favourite meals,
pampering him as she was told
to do, saying in-between her teeth
I love you.

She shivers:
It is 5 o'clock,
he is coming home.
The palace is clean,
no dust or stain.
It is sunny and warm
but she can only see rain.

He doesn't look at her
as she talks about visiting her family.
It is too late.
A horrible mistake she has made.
(he is so jealous and insecure)
Anger is his serenade.

I could see her old despair
disguised behind her aching eyes
as somebody stroke her hair.
I could witness her pain and shame:
 pity was all around.

How imperfect can love get?
How difficult is it to bury the past
in a shallow ground?

Karla Bardanza

Domestic Violence and Abuse

Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships

Domestic Violence and Abuse: Types, Signs, Symptoms, Causes, and Effects
Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of size, gender, or strength, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Emotional abuse is often minimized, yet it can leave deep and lasting scars.
Noticing and acknowledging the warning signs and symptoms of domestic violence and abuse is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following warning signs and descriptions of abuse, don’t hesitate to reach out. There is help available.

Copyright©Karla Bardanza 2011

1 comment:

  1. Sadly Flower, people feel that they have ownership of others. They feel they have to right to dominate, control, manipulate. They feel ownership with a contract of marriage. They never realize it is a commitment, an ever learning experience of love's expression. I pity those who batter others, for their world must be small and empty indeed.
    One cannot give what one does not have... But one can decide to get what is best for themselves, shaking what binds them behind... tc